Do You See Dead People Too?

I get asked the same question over and over: How do I know if I have abilities?

Well, here we go with Amma's blunt honesty and saying it how it is. Lock in.

First, we all have a connection to the Otherside, because that is where we came from and where we'll return. It's like a connection to the Ultimate, the Divine, and cannot be broken completely, no matter what we do. Whether your connection is great, or really crappy, it is just as individual as your fingerprints.

Second, no. Not everyone can really be a medium or use their connection, and it's for many reasons. Some people don't have the life lesson to have that kind of closeness with Othersiders. We're all here learning different lessons. Not everyone wants to use their connection, and often children will unknowingly (at least at the conscious level) close the doors. Quite often, children will speak of the Otherside, past lives, etc., but are told they are making up stories, so they learn to not hold and believe in that connection. Some people aren't mentally set up to be psychic or a medium because of all kinds of reasons- from illness to simple inability to understand the connection and more. Some people simply are not meant to have that connection at all, and so past birth, the doors are closed for them. Commonly, those of us with real abilities will remember being 3 years old in particular and having an experience that remains very clear in the mind. That's not to say we all have the experience, or that you get everything at 3 or anything like that. But 3 seems to be a common age for a first paranormal or supernatural event in someone's life when they are meant to use their abilities. For me, it's been my whole life, one experience after another, one new teacher after another, and I still find new things that come up for me. It's a growth process.

Third, yes, you can practice your abilities and increase their presence in your life if you're meant to do that. Again, it's about a soul lesson, and you can't change it. It is, or it isn't. Test yourself on some of the fun sites that have psychic tests. Google it, and you'll find several, most of which use random patterns on cards and have you guess. Learn to meditate and find the way you need to plug in to the Otherside. It's an individual thing. Some people aren't meant to have every ability....don't push yourself into trying to be who you are not. Keep a journal of experiences, meditate, ground yourself, learn Reiki, find peace. Learn to dream lucidly, and keep a dream journal. Being a medium is NOT an easy job. Anyone who says it is, well, they're lying. I deal with Death on a personal basis. He's not a friendly guy, and the dead aren't always in a great mood. Their stories aren't all peaceful, happy deaths.

Lastly, I'm a HUGE proponent of therapy. That doesn't mean that if you have abilities you're nuts. In that case, I'd be certifiably mad!!! What I mean is, if you're seeing and hearing things that are really scary, hearing voices telling you to do things, experiencing any sort of trauma around this sort of thing, seek out help. I hate to say it, but I have seen cases where people believed they were blessed with amazing abilities and were seriously mentally ill. I always say seek out counseling from more than one person. Perhaps a therapist, clergy in the field of the paranormal (yes, there's a few of us out there), real mediums (don't pay for consultations/counseling unless it's a donation type of situation) or even good friends and family who won't think automatically that you've lost the plot!

Remember, this is not something for the faint-hearted to do or be involved in. Many people choose to turn off their abilities completely, and it's understandable. Sometimes, it's easier to just turn it off, close the door, make it stop. It's not always pretty ethereal figures and sweet grandmas coming through.

"I don't believe that ghosts are 'spirits of the dead' because I don't believe in death. In the multiverse, once you're possible, you exist. And once you exist, you exist forever one way or another. Besides, death is the absence of life, and the ghosts I've met are very much alive. What we call ghosts are lifeforms just as you and I are."
–– PAUL F. ENO