I've said it over and over, there just aren't people in the paranormal field who really work with kiddos and their parents. There are people who say they do, people who make stupid tv shows exploiting children and their families, but not one medium who will take a consult in the middle of the night on a kid having a paranormal experience, except me. I can't tell you how many of these cases I've had...they are many. Find another medium who does what I do, and for free,, and I'll eat all my words happily. After years of doing this, I have not heard of or met a single one.
I recently had a discussion about this with someone. The point they made was this: mediums who are well-known, on tv, etc., are able to look at an adult and take their money and do the reading. Hands wiped clean, whether they were honest or not, it's done and dusted. No harm done, right? The most fraudulent person can pretty easily take an adult's money and give them a cold reading that at least satisfies them. Am I saying all mediums are frauds? Well, of course not. But I think taking money is a pretty good sign that the person's more interested in emptying your pockets than helping you heal or handle your issue. If your money comes before helping you, think about who you're trusting.
Now when it comes to kids, even hardened criminals have a line they draw! Childhood is sacred to most people. Taking an adult and feeding them bullshit is easier morally, at least that's where the discussion went, than doing that to a kid. It's hard to lie to a child for many reasons. Mostly, no one wants to hurt a child, especially by putting bullshit into their heads. It's super-bad karma to mess with a child's head. Kids are far more able to call you out than adults as well. Adults want to believe. Kids want the truth. Adults want to feel better. Kids want knowledge. Kids will clock a liar and a fraud a mile away. They're like dogs; they can sniff out your bullshit. This keeps a lot of mediums from really working closely with families who have kids that are sensitive, experiencing things and who need answers. Parents don't just call anyone up and say "Hey, my kid is seeing things. My kid's afraid of these noises. My family is dealing with poltergeist activity." This kind of thing is really scary, not just for kids, but for parents who may not believe their child, or worse yet, who surround a child in paranormal tv and information and then suddenly wonder what the hell is going on with their child. I've had parents say they've offered money to mediums for help and no one will do it. It's just bad to lie to a kid or to a parent about their kid. And when you make your living doling out bullshit to the naive, it's easier to stick to adults than innocent kids. So many "mediums" out there are just making money off you and giving you a lot of their nonsense, cold reading you, telling you broadly general statements that fit just about everyone. They can't get away with that with kids. Kids are far more intelligent in many ways than adults. Kids just don't buy generalizations and non-specifics. Kids want you to explain things in detail, and fakes can't do that. I can.
Being able to bullshit a kid is tough, trust me. I've raised my own and other people's kids. They don't even let you fib about what's for supper. If you doubt me, try to hold an infant when you're in a bad mood...they will not be comfortable with you. Kids can feel you on another level. I've had parents come to me, telling me all kinds of typical paranormal stuff going on around their child, and then had the kid tell me things that point to mental illness or things like abuse and bullying. Many parents want to believe their kid will be the next big thing in the paranormal world. Stop watching and believing tv is all real! These shows are into production value because without it, advertisers don't pay! If you're believing that all these paranormal shows are 100%, you're being conned, and could be hurting your kiddos if you are having them watch and believe these things too. You have to teach kids that tv is not reality, even if that's what the networks call it. Unfortunately, most kids are just struggling with life and when exposed to the paranormal enough, they'll create a paranormal issue instead of facing the real things going on. That's where I come in.
Mostly, I hear from parents of girls. Boys tend to believe they are being followed, or have an attachment, or they pick up something from books or tv and believe it affects them as well. They get scared, and it usually takes just a bit of explanation and education to set them right again. I've even let boys do some real investigating with equipment and shown them that EMR and other things can give the impression of something paranormal. Boys love gadgets and facts. They want the science of why their brain does what it does. Of course, girls often love this stuff too, but girls typically bring a whole different set of "paranormal" concerns.
Girls are different. Girls are just naturally more sensitive than boys. On top of that, girls in puberty are powerful creatures. Never doubt it. Poltergeist activity is common around adolescent girls, they tend to see and hear things, and they tend to react with self-destructive behavior. Girls are in line with the moon, and by nature, girls are magical. Often girls who are sensitive will start seeing a ramp up in things when they get their period. But girls often don't tell people how they feel, especially their parents. Girls often feel guilt for paranormal-type activity around them, because they know it's about them. It's usually not even a conscious knowing. They just know. Girls will cut themselves, and worse. Boys usually need facts. Girls need emotional understanding. They want to know how to stop it, or how to handle it. Most want to know how to shut the door to the Otherside, if that's really what they are experiencing. That's not an easy thing to teach someone, but I do it.
It can be torture for a child to experience the things that a true medium does. At 15, I had the first of many psychic visions of a murder, and it was what ultimately led me to help on missing persons cases, unsolved crimes, and the like. I watched a girl murdered, and 10 minutes later, it was on the news when I turned on the tv. I knew it would be, but it was hellish. In my work, I've gone through these types of visions often, and they're hard to deal with at any age. As a kid, they can destroy you emotionally. Most kids don't even know how to deal with death, never mind watching someone lose their life. It's important to show them how to close the door and then how to open it later in life if they want. For the record, I do this all with adults who approach me with similar issues. I vet every part of their life and then help them shut it off if they really are sensitive. Most of the real, truly sensitive people I hear from just don't want it in their life. It can be very distracting to see the dead and have paranormal experiences all the time, never mind the emotional toll it can take. It's not an easy thing to be, a medium.
When I get a parent who has a kiddo with something going on, I talk to the parent and get details about what they know. I ask a million questions about everything from time spent with their kids to family religious beliefs, social experiences, and more. Then I talk to the child. I look at home life and school, friends, outside interests and activities, books and tv shows they watch and what they are seeing, hearing and feeling. I talk about bullying and social issues. I find out if they are hurting themselves. You'd be amazed at the parents who have no idea what's going on with their kid, and I spend 5 minutes with them and get all kinds of information. It's sometimes quite extensive, this process. Sometimes I have a 5 minute conversation and know exactly what is going on, because I recognize their abilities or can quickly determine that we need some medical intervention or testing. Mostly, I find that kids are in need of more help. I tell parents to take their kid to a doctor, to a therapist, and be sure and certain that there isn't a mental health issue. Especially when a child says they see and hear things that are super scary or tell them to hurt themselves or others. If a child is cutting, or otherwise self-harming, I tell parents to get help from a medical professional. I'm never going to just fall into the trap of belief simply because I'm a medium. I'm going to do what's best for the child and the family. If that means I have to work with a family in their home to determine what's going on, I will. If it means we talk weekly, no problem. If I need to help them find medical or religious help, I will. But I'm never going to tell anyone what they WANT to hear. I think that's why parents come to me and refer others. I'm brutally honest, but I'll be there to help if I can. Ultimately, parents respect and appreciate it, or they tell me that I'm full of shit and their kid's a psychic/medium/whatever, and they just bail. I pray for those kids. If you don't want the truth, and don't want to really deal with it, don't call me. I don't just appease people, and I don't mollycoddle nonsense. I'm not easily fooled, and I won't ever just accept what I know to be untrue to make a parent or kid feel better. That's not fair to anyone.
If you believe tv, mediums are everywhere. That's just not true. We're rare. The best ones aren't on tv, and we're not paid. To tell the truth, the best ones aren't well known, and we have to fight for any recognition at all. I hate the tv depiction of who mediums are because we're not all super dramatic, or have big hair or perky tits to keep us on the telly. We are real people, and we don't want to be fed a bunch of info ahead of time. We don't want to tell people they have demons and then walk away. The best ones work with the hard cases, get called in when investigators who think it's all fun and games get into something they can't manage, and we don't bullshit you. We're rare as hen's teeth, and I've seen far more issues related to puberty, bullying and home life problems than I have seen kids with serious mediumship abilities. Having a background in psych nursing helps a great deal. Being a mother helps too, especially since my youngest daughter is sensitive and has also gone through a lot of the aforementioned problems herself. Sometimes it isn't easy separating the wheat from the chaff in a case. It takes time. I give mine freely.
Parents, please be cautious when exposing your children to the paranormal. Don't take your kids on investigations or sit them in front of paranormal tv shows and tell them it's all true. Don't explain away bad dreams as hauntings, or weird noises in your house to spirits roaming. Talk to your kids about their lives, and don't just ask yes/no questions. If you think something truly paranormal is happening with your kids, find someone who knows what they are doing, how to deal with kids, and how to help you truly. Don't just trust anyone. This is your CHILD.
If you need help, email me or message me on Facebook. I don't charge you money, I don't give you a ration of horseshit. I'm going to get to the bottom of what's going on and help you find help outside if you need it. I challenge you to find another one like me who will do this work. I haven't found anyone else like me yet. I'm not bragging, just saying that it is what it is. I don't do easy work. I wasn't given this gift to do easy work. It's hard, sometimes it's painful, sometimes it's frustrating and maddening, but when I help a family, it's incredibly satisfying. When I see a kid find peace and understanding, it proves that I'm doing the right thing helping them. I do this work because no one ever did it for me when I was young and dealing with seeing the dead, having visions that came true or dreaming of events before they happened. No one was there for me, but I'm going to be there for others when I'm needed. I never judge. There's no stigma with me, whether it's paranormal or perfectly normal stuff or mental illness. I've seen it all. I'm not easily shocked or upset, and I'm not one to give up until I have answers. You may not like what I have to say, but I promise it'll always be honest and said with love, meant to help. I love your kids too.
An idea, like a ghost, must be spoken to a little before it will explain itself.
--Charles Dickens--
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